Over the weekend, I am traveling back to Sacramento to celebrate the life of my former mother-in-law, Ellie Matal.
Losing three “mothers” in three years is truly heartbreaking. Today I celebrate their lives briefly in these photos. These women were uniquely quirky and intensely loving. No doubt they were heroes in the eyes of their children and grandchildren.
Ellie Jeffus Matal was my mother-in-law from 1980 to 1995. She passed away (cancer) on October 31, 2022. She was an elementary school teacher for many years and loved quilting.


Hella Blumenbach Schrandt was my mother-in-law in my current marriage from 2013 to 2021. She passed away (Alzheimer’s) on February 14, 2021. Born in Chile, she spoke Spanish, German, and English and trained to drive buses later in life.


Both of my MILs shared the same birthdate, October 4, but one year apart.
Diane McCune Webster, my mother, shared two grandchildren (my daughters) with Ellie. Mom passed away from a 30-year battle with lupus and its effects just shy of her 80th birthday, on March 3, 2020. We were lucky to be able to be with her just before covid closed hospitals to covid a mere two weeks later.



If your mother or father is still alive, please hug them tightly as soon as you can. If they are no longer with you, please cherish your loving memories.
In remembrance of Veteran’s Day, not only should we honor and remember those who gave their lives and sacrificed for our freedom, but to honor the everyday heroes in our lives–our parents!
“I can imagine no heroism greater than motherhood.” —Lance Conrad
Sharing for Marsha’s WQW Veterans Day and holidays.
Please join me November 20th for Sunday Stills as we tackle the monthly color challenge leather (shades of brown).

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What a wonderful tribute, and I will hug my mother tighter today for sure.
XOXO
Jodie
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Hug her for me too! I feel like I know her 💕
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A lovely tribute to your mother and mothers-in-law, Terri. My own mother died in 2017, and I miss her more than I ever thought I would.
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Thanks, Stevie. Something more difficult about losing our moms.
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Beautiful but poignant post. The loss of a mother, be it in-law or in-name or adopted or biological is so hard. Something about mothers. You were lucky to have three. I was lucky that I had 9 years between the loss of my MIL and my own mom. You have had a rough three years. Sending YOU hugs.
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Thank you, Dawn. My MILs had very long lives. I wish my own mom’s health was better so she could have still been around longer. I’ll take that hug!
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Beautiful tribute to the mothers in your life. I will see my mom today and give her an extra hug. 🥰
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Aww, thank you, Susanne. ❤️
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your Mother -in-law had a sense of humour passing away on Halloween.
You honour your loved ones well Terri.
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I think she waited until she could be there as her husband celebrated his 92nd birthday on 10/28. Thank you, Wayne ❤️
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Three losses in three years is hard, but it sounds like they all had good long lives, and were good people to have in your life for so long. I hope your weekend goes well.
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I hadn’t thought about 3 in 3 years until I wrote the post. They’re all at peace. Thank you Graham.
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What a beautiful memorial post for your mothers. Thanks for sharing them with us.
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When I started thinking about the MIL who just passed, I realized how quickly in succession they left us. Happy Veterans day to you and your family, thank your kids for their service ❤️🙏🇺🇸
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A beautiful post, Terri. Losing family members is very hard. Hugs
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Thanks so much, Robbie!
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Beautiful women, wonderful memories!
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Thank you, Donna. It will be nice to see both sides of the family this weekend.
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Beautiful tribute, Terri. I know where you got your thick hair, now! All of your mothers had twinkly eyes and beautiful smiles. My grandmother was almost there with them – birthday-wise. She was born on October 8th, my dad on the 12th, and my brother and grandfather on the 24th. Then I was born two weeks after that on the 7th, and my paternal grandfather on November 14th. The rest of the family was out of sync. My two mothers-in-law passed the same week, one in Seattle and one in Calimesa. That made for an interesting week just after I started a new job at the County Office of Education. Enjoy your time with family celebrating your MIL’s life. She looks very sweet.
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Thank you, Marsha! I just arrived in Woodland. I’m staying at my friend’s home. Wow, that is a lot of October/November birthdays! Losing your two MILs in one week must have been traumatic 😪
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It was geographically difficult for sure! Weirdly they both had Alzheimer’s.
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Terri, what wonderful role models you had in your life. Many blessings.
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Thank you so very much, Suzanne.
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What a beautiful article, Terri – such wonderful mothers. Hugs, Toni x
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Thank you, Toni! I appreciate those hugs ❤️
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Lovely tribute to your three moms. I wish I still had my mother to hug too.
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Aww, it’s hard when they are gone, Janis. Thank you. I’m sure you have innumerable fond memories.
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Darling you, I am so sorry for these tremendous losses, and all coming far too close together. All three of these women look spirited and feisty. I am sure you carry a bit of their spirits in your heart.
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Aww, you are so sweet, Leslie! I hope to aspire to their reputations some day. The service was so lovely today, nice to see the whole family together, as well as old friends.
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This is a beautiful post for the beautiful heroines in your life, Terri. My deepest condolences and sending warmest wishes to you and your family members.
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Thank you, Gift. The service on Saturday was indeed a celebration of life and family. I’m glad I was able to make the trip and also spend time with my daughters 💕
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A lovely tribute to three clearly very special women Terri 🤗
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Thank you, Sarah. They blessed my life over the years.
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Terri,
My Mom is 94. I read your post. I called my Mom. Thank you. Joe
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Aww. That’s so nice, Joe!
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A lovely, heartfelt post of remembrance, Terri. Three mothers in three years is a lot of loss. I second your advice to hug and appreciate the everyday heroes in our lives. There will be a time when they are no longer here to enjoy. Hugs.
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Thank you, Diana. I saw your blogs email notification that your mother just passed? My mobile won’t let me in to WP yet. I’m so sorry and know how you feel.
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Thanks, Terri. Yes, my mom passed on the 9th. It’s been a hard week, but we’re doing okay. You post was so touching. Hugs, my friend.
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My condolences for your all of your losses. It’s truly heartbreaking to lose three moms in your life.
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I suppose if we live long enough, we’ll see them pass on. Thank you Debra, I appreciate your comment!
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I’m sorry again for all your losses Terri. A lovely tribute. ❤
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Thank you, Debby. I was blessed to be at my MIL’s service this last weekend.
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Thank you for sharing. We are lucky when such people become a part of our lives. And they are alive as long as we remember them.
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That is so nice of you to say so–how beautifully expressed, Lakshmi, thank you.
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Terri, what a beautiful tribute to these strong women in your life. I’m sorry for your losses and the reasons for their passing, even sadder. While I enjoyed seeing your beautiful photo of the moon in the post I just read, my personal feeling is that research should be directed toward cures for all three of these terrible diseases and not sending manned rockets into space and to the moon. I am glad you got to spend time with your mom before Covid closed down hospitals … at least you had one “lucky” (if that’s the right word) break. I am sure this was a sad gathering.
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Thank you, Linda. They were all quite amazing in their own ways. The service last Saturday was actually very nice and a beautiful tribute to her long life.
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That is nice Terri. I have no family so when my mom passed away in 2010 I had no service (but we had agreed on that many years ago).
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Beautiful thoughts and photos Terri. Losing 3 mothers in a short space of time is hearttreaking! I felt that way when I lost my father and father-in-law within 6 months of each other in 2018 and then my MIL in Dec 2020. My mum is 84 and going well so I will hug her tightly when I see her next. xx
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Aww I’m sorry, Debbie. That must have been so difficult to lose both fathers so soon. Thank you, I’m glad your mom is still around and please hug her tight!
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Aw, what a touching post and such heart-warming and beautiful memories to treasure. Hugs to you, Terri, I agree, hug your loved ones every chance you get! 🤗🥰
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Thank you, Shelley. I was glad to be able to say goodbye in person to my MIL last week.
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You’re welcome, I’m glad you were able to do so too. 🤗
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Lovely.
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Condolences! I too lost my mother recently…Here is my tribute to her…https://chapter18.wordpress.com/2023/01/13/mother-its-an-honour-to-be-your-children/
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Thank you.
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