Facebook, Second Chances, and Love

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April 9th was the 6th year anniversary of our first date. Read more for the whole story!

After living in San Diego my whole life, I married young at age 20 to a young man who was from Northern California and ended up moving there. After 17 years we divorced and a few years later I got into another long-term relationship. Some men aren’t the marrying kind, especially in mid-life, so the relationship fizzled out since it was not going to become permanent. I was single again, now aged 48 and figured I was destined to be alone. I was interested in a couple of men but nothing happened.

At my 30-year high school reunion in San Diego, I thought I could meet someone who might be single…geez, I sound like a prowler (not cougar…). So yes, I met someone, but…naaaa! I had hoped to see a couple of men there but they did not attend the event.

Soon after the reunion, someone invited me to Facebook, so I joined, and connected with a large group of high school alumni. Fast forward a few months later, I noticed the photo of a particular man on Facebook who happened to be single (and amazingly still looking for his soul mate!). He was always someone I thought highly of in school (handsome, amazing athlete, you know…). He was still as handsome as ever and had posted pictures of himself windsurfing and was now living in Northern California.

Somehow between a friend request and a couple of e-mails back and forth, we started communicating. Every evening for a week, I would open Facebook hoping for another message, but alas, nothing for several days. So I did what any red-blooded, albeit slightly desperate woman would do, and I e-mailed him my phone number.

Right before Easter, my daughter, who lives in the San Francisco Bay area, had broken her arm, so I had to drive there to help her (she had to have surgery, etc). As I was driving, my phone rang and I saw a number I did not recognize. I answered and it was HIM!! His first question was “How are you,” and his second question was, “How is your daughter?”

Wow, handsome AND caring!! He had seen my post. So we yacked for 90 minutes as if we had just spoken the day before. We had not seen each other since our 20-year reunion in 1998. We obviously hit it off and he liked talking on the phone (unusual for most men). He had just gotten back into town and of course I was two hours away helping my daughter; oh the irony!

In between surgery and doctors’ visits with my daughter, we talked on the phone over a four-day period. We made a date for a few days later. Our first date was dinner at Olive Garden. When I drove in to the apartment complex where he was staying with his friend, and as I got out of the car and walked up to him, he put his big arms around me and flat-out just picked me up (I’m not a small gal—5’8’’). In person, his sparkly green eyes and incredible personality was enough to make me swoon (hmm, maybe I should write romance novels…)

Of course dinner went great and we went back to his friend’s place and chatted. They showed me these windsurfing movies and I could see how passionate they were about this sport. So (being a pretty good swimmer and water enthusiast), I looked him in the eye and said, “That looks like fun, maybe you can teach me how to windsurf.” I’m pretty sure it was his turn to swoon!

We're Married
Something he said was funny! Image edited by TWSchrandt

Four and a half years later, we tied the knot at a small church wedding and we are still newlyweds in our mid-50s. I told him just today that I smile every time I think to myself “I’m married and I have a husband.” I consider myself blessed and lucky and I thank God every day for bringing him into my life!

Happy FIRST DATE Anniversary to by wondeful husband and best friend!


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22 responses to “Facebook, Second Chances, and Love”

  1. Wow, what a story… CONGRATULATIONS! 😍

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    1. Thank you! It is nice to be happy!

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  2. Oh, music to my ears as my story is very similar. Friday is our 10th wedding anniversary.! Congratulations to you both 😍

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    1. Thank you and that is great to hear–happy Anniversary!!

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  3. Congratulations! Loved reading your story. You look lovely in the last picture 🙂

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  4. […] April 9th was the sixth year anniversary of the first date with my (now) husband. Read the story here. Six years ago, this week was just before Easter, so that added to the emotions of the […]

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  5. You are blessed. What a wonderful story. That last picture of you smiling is infectious!

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  6. Oh congrats Terri. How wonderful! A glorious story. And funny too x.

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  7. I loved reading your story Terri! Congratulations to you and your hubby for finding one another!

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  8. Congratulations to both of you!I Many happy returns.
    This love story is so romantic and sweet! And he could only be a wonderful man, as he loves windsurfing! 😉 Seriously, you are good in writing romance too..
    I am very happy for you, Terri.
    I wish you both even more happiness and love.
    Lucile

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    1. Thank you so much, Lucile! I got lucky with this guy!

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      1. I think this guy got equally lucky to have you! 🙂

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  9. I am so happy for you. I have had some intriguing events in my past but nothing that is better than this.

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  10. Congratulations! Best for you!

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    LifestyleswithLia

    Beautiful and inspiring love story! You two were made for each other… What a great pair!!!

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